There’s a fallacy in our world’s saying, “Chase your dreams.” Chasing implies that a dream is not yours, or that it is an entity of its own that is not interested in you. In saying this, I am not suggesting that dreams come easy, or that one should not work hard towards his or her goals; what I am saying is, you are who you dream of being. Life’s perpetual processes and struggles, along with the talents you possess, the personality you have, the inner passion and drive that lie inside you, confirm that you are fully equipped to fulfill, and be, your dreams. These things cultivate the character you need to uphold your dreams. I dream of being a singer/songwriter, mentor, motivational speaker, and an entrepreneur, and I am already these things. Yes, I hope for bigger stages and more opportunities to share my gifts and talents, but I know at the core of me, I am all of these things. I often pray about these dreams but life gives me opportunities not to chase these dreams, but to become them by instilling in me the character that I needed to uphold them.
When my mother Bridget Jones, co-founder and Executive Director of GirlNaturale, and I started this organization, we simply worked with the talents we had—computer savvy-ness (what little we had), talents in speaking, empathizing with others, and having a heart to see girls embrace their natural selves. As President and co-founder, little did I know I would learn what it really meant to be a leader, a motivational speaker and a singer/songwriter. In leadership I learned sacrifice and selflessness; in motivational speaking I learned eloquence and discipline in learning new things and expressing my ideas; in singing/songwriting, I learned how to be fully present in my life and how to take note of what life is teaching me (no matter how painful the lesson was or if it entailed me being vulnerable) so that I may mentor, and share, what I had learned with others. Each role that I have presumed, and continue to presume, teaches me different elements of life and allows me to walk fully present in my dreams, to be my dreams, and to be myself in them. I am still learning. Dreams are continual life processes that cultivate character and life lessons for you to share with others. With all of this being said, it is my hope that you stop chasing your dreams and let the current roles you presume instill good character in you—allowing you to be your authentic natural self. Stages, promotions, and services will rise to accommodate your talents but you must know that you are your dream!
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